If you’ve read my posts on “proving my mother wrong” , this story about proving my sister wrong is related to it. My mother always said I was the bad guy and my sisters were the good guys. Although we all got good grades in school and I was more popular than the two of them , they was a very obedient daughters to my mother. They obeyed everything my mother said even if it was wrong. For instance, my mother insisted that my youngest sister forego a relationship with a much older guy just because he was rich which ofcourse my sister obeyed. They broke up eventually. My sisters obeyed when my mother chose the college course they were going to take instead of having to think for themselves what they really wanted in life.

I’ve always been very independent probably because I was most ignored in the family so I wanted to make my own life. I wanted to prove to my sisters that you can make your own decisions and succeed. Listening and obeying to your parents is a very good thing but sometimes you also have to think of your own. I chose my own path in life. I chose to get married early but I also chose to make it work. I chose to succeed in my career for my family. I chose to give my children a good life.

When my mother died, my two sisters were at a loss because they were so used to having someone tell them what to do. At the moment they are both struggling with their finances and with their lives and all because someone else chose for them.